Fact and Fiction: The truth about porn

Since its creation, pornography has gone from a hidden magazine in the back of gas stations, to a billion-dollar industry. With the help of the internet, you have access to unlimited amounts of videos that can cater to any sexual fetish or fantasy you can think of (Rule 34 of the internet: if it exists, there's a porn for it.) And in porn, actors and actresses can provide a more in-depth view of certain fetishes for the real world. But where does the fantasy end and reality take over? Let's go over certain myths that have blurred the lines and set the record straight. 

1. All good sex starts with oral. Most porn starts with someone going down on someone else. There could be a little hard kissing prior, but that's usually short lived and is more for visual pleasure than physical. In real sexual situations, kissing (along with touching) establishes an emotional connection and is what usually starts a good sex session. Oral is fun as a foreplay (and it feels good), but it is not necessary to get the job done. Some couples don't even practice oral sex, and they're still sexually satisfied. 

2. It's a man's world, his pleasure is everything. Probably the biggest lie in straight porn is that it is the woman's job to please the man and expect almost nothing in return. An attitude like that will lead to a very messy break-up and a lot of (potential) embarrassment. Sex should be mutually enjoyed by both partners and each partner should focus on pleasing each other. That way, everyone gets to enjoy the big O at the end. 

3. All women love to be called names in bed. Slut. Bitch. Whore. These names may be fun in a roleplay/BDSM session (more on this later), but not many girls like to be called names during sex. Even when things are intense and rough, a slip of the wrong word could bring things to a grinding halt and leave you with a pissed off partner. Watch your tongue when it's not in your partner. 

4. Shove it in me, I'm your slut. After some (basic) foreplay is established, a lot of porn actresses will seem to easily take a penis with little stimulation of their own genitals. Try that in real life, you're likely to both get hurt. A lot of porn actresses are already lubed up prior to the act, or they cut out a lot of the foreplay to get to the good stuff, because that's what the customers want. Take your time during foreplay; it makes things easier to insert and is loads of fun. 

5. Cum on the face is A-Okay. Another huge lie, porn has made it almost a requirement to cum on your partner's face and mouth when you finish. This is almost never done in real sex; a lot of women don't even like the taste of sperm. Most couples will either finish inside their partner, a condom, or pull out and spray the bed or their partner's body (if they have agreed to this beforehand). In real life, cumming on the face causes more irritation to the receiver than joy. 

6. Any situation can lead to sex. We've all seen it. Two strangers meet on a plane, a pizza boy getting a special tip, a plumber coming over to fix the pipes, a librarian taking a liking to a sexy nerd. It's all been done, and it almost never happens outside of the silver screen. While good inspiration for roleplay activities, if you hire someone to fix something at your home, odds are you're not going to sleep with them afterwards. Accept this and move on. 

7. Yes. YES! YEEEEEES!!! To the point of annoyance, if the sex is good in the porno, the girl will start screaming these words consistently. Or they'll shout obscenities that would make a sailor proud; screaming out their pleasure loud enough for the neighbors to suspect a murder is happening. While moans and groans and some words may be exchanged, screaming out YES constantly will get annoying the longer it goes on. If your partner isn't screaming like you've heard in the porno, don't take offense to it. Each person sounds their pleasure responses in their own ways. 

8. Anyone will willingly join a threesome. In porn, if there are two girls and a guy, or two guys and a girl, everyone is getting lucky. Whether it's besties, step siblings, college roommates, whatever, it will end up with everyone naked and humping someone. Understand that these people are getting paid to do this, and if you want to add someone to your bedroom activities, you will both need to sit down and have a very deep discussion about it. Adding a third into an established couple, even if it's a onetime thing, can go good or bad for the relationship. Odds are, it will never happen. But if it does, make sure everyone is on the same page, and that everyone is getting attention, not just the newcomer.  

Porn can be visually pleasing, exciting, even inspiring. But you should never take it as the standard of sexual practices. Always keep in mind that these are paid actors, no different than any celebrity you see in the theatre. Make your own sexual practices unique to you. In your room, with your partner, it's your movie. So, make it an enjoyable one.