Anal Sex

 If you've been having sex for a while, you probably skipped right to this section. Anal sex seems to be the most sought-after goal for most couples who want to try something new. And it's not as dirty as people will have you believe; it's merely different. Of course, it's also not meant for everyone, and should be practiced by those who are comfortable with each other. An important thing you both should remember is that, unlike the vagina, anal sex is something you cannot dive right into. It takes relaxation, comfort, and patience. This is one of those practices where having toys specially designed for anal sex will be good to have on hand. Anal plugs, beads, and small dildos will come in handy and is highly recommended.  Some couples can take days or weeks before they successfully having anal sex. There are steps that you can take that will help ease into it when you’re both ready. 

  • Make each other comfortable- Comfort needs to be established, both emotionally and physically. You and your partner need to be on the same page before taking this step, and you both need to know when to stop. If you are hesitant and try, you'll end up butthurt in the end (physically and emotionally.) 

  • Have an orgasm or two before starting- The best way to get relaxed before attempting anal is to have an orgasm (the stronger the better). An orgasm will help the body loosen up and relax the butthole, making the rest easier. Have some intense foreplay, a good sex session, and plenty of lube handy.  

  • Keep stimulating- Use one hand to stimulate the genital area of your partner (via fingers or toys) while your other hand does the work on the butthole. Stimulating the genitals will help take your partner's mind off things as you prepare to go down the brown hole. As you stimulate, don't hesitate to let them cum, as this will help continue to relax them. 

  • Use your fingers- After you lube your finger (the pinky is best starting out, for obvious reasons) and while stimulating the genitals, make sure you also lube up the butthole and begin stimulating the area around it. As you continue this stimulation, the muscles will relax, and you can start moving inside the hole itself. Move slowly as you go in and out, allowing the muscles to relax as you go deeper. When your partner is ready, switch to a thicker finger and keep the motions going. Do this for as long as your partner is able to, or until you can get a thumb in. Once the muscles are relaxed enough to take a thumb without causing pain, toys should be your next item to use. This has the added benefit of giving your partner a chance to feel what it will be like when you’re ready to go for the penis. When attempting this, give your partner control by letting them use the toy instead of you. This will allow them to move at a pace that's comfortable to them. When your partner is ready to try the penis, lube up and ease slowly into the hole. This is another situation where you'll want to let your partner to have control starting out. Let them thrust against you until they reach a point where they give you the ok to take over.   

  • If you can't go all the way, take a step back and try again later- Not everyone can take anal all in one day, and you shouldn't expect to. With it being an uncommon practice, it's very easy to tense up. Tensing can cause anal to be more painful than it should be. And, of course, you can't just relax and take it when you're doing it for the first time. That's why it's important to listen to your partner when they say they need it to stop. Don't be frustrated if this happens. It will get easier as you practice. Have faith, have patience, and have plenty of lube handy. 

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