Oral Sex: An art in itself

 Ooh la la. Welcome to the oral center of this book. In this chapter, we'll discuss the various ways to enjoy your partner with oral sex. By far, oral is the most intimate a person can get with another person's body before intercourse happens. Taking the genitals of your partner into your mouth and pleasing them develops a greater connection of trust. Plus, it feels really good for all parties involved. So, lets jump into it. 

Personal Hygiene 

Before you receive oral from another person, please be kind to them, and clean your area first. It may seem stupid to say this, but personal hygiene is important during oral sex. If you went down on your partner, and it stinks of five-day old sweat, or has more hair than you'd like to stick your mouth around, you'll find yourself wanting to run away quickly. It doesn't take much to keep that area clean. Body wash and water will help your partner out and even a little trim won’t hurt. If your man has too much hair and you don't want to pick it out of your teeth for days afterwards, ask him to shave or trim it first. If your woman's genital area looks like an afro jungle and you don't feel like exploring, ask the same of her. It doesn't hurt to keep a little clean area down south, and (ladies especially), you can put little designs in the area, such as a heart, or (again, for the ladies) a little arrow showing where the goodies are at.  

A quick shower also doesn’t hurt anyone. Use body wash or soap and clean yourself off so that your area smells nice. Sweaty balls and tuna surprise are not usually a welcome smell for those about to put your genitals in their mouth.  

But what if it's spontaneous and I haven’t showered yet? 

Answer: ask to use the bathroom, and again, wash off with soap and water. A sink and a towel will do in a pinch if you don't want them to know you're cleaning your goodies. And your partner will thank you for giving them something that doesn’t smell awful.  

Personal hygiene is just basic decency and healthy for everyone. Even after sex happens, take a few minutes to recover your strengths and (unless you plan on going at it again) take a shower afterwards. You can even share a shower together and help clean each other off (although this can also lead to getting dirty again, which is a win-win for everyone.)  

Oral sex for him 

As stated earlier, the penis is the most sensitive on the scrotum, the underside of the shaft, and just under the crown. Knowing this, there are various techniques to provide maximum pleasure using your mouth. 

The basic method is to lick. Licking the shaft and head with your tongue will provide direct pleasure to these sensitive areas. It's also cleaner in a sense. There's not a lot of drool that can drip down onto the mattress, floor, car seat (if you're on the road and he's driving), or wherever you're currently at. It also allows greater control for the giver, as sucking can sometimes lead to the receiver unintentionally (or purposely) humping the giver's mouth and throat. While licking the penis, you can alternate the sensations by changing the shape of your tongue from flat to pointed or curled. If you're really good at controlling the muscles in your tongue, you can step it up and apply these talents to perform oral in a multitude of different ways. Licking the scrotum can also be done, if you're daring enough to try. Just flick your tongue along the bottom and give each ball a gentle caress. 

The most common method of giving a man oral is taking the penis in your mouth and sucking it, similar to a lollipop or a popsicle. This creates a different sensation from licking and should be explored. Sucking allows a mutual exchange of control and submission, as the giver can use one or both hands to keep control on how deep they take the penis or can give up using hands and just hump the penis with their mouth and throat. Sucking can also increase the pleasure for the receiver if you combine the sucking action with either pumping the penis with your hand(s), caressing the scrotum while sucking, or using your tongue to massage while sucking. You can even suck the testicles, although care should be taken as they are extremely sensitive. Explore, experiment, and practice as long as you (or your partner) can hold out. 

The final (and some argue best) way to give oral to your man is deep throat. Made famous by the Linda Lovelace porno of the same name, this is the act of taking the penis past the gag reflex and down the throat and stimulating the crown using the muscles in the throat. It can be hard to pull off, as you have to get yourself comfortable enough to overpower your gag reflex. This is usually done by training yourself to work through it. There are very few natural deep throaters. However, if you're able to pull it off, your man will be more than thankful. You can train yourself by using certain foods (like banana's and cucumbers), toys such as dildos, or simply practicing on your man as often as you can. You can be guaranteed that he'll have no objections to being your practice dummy for this.  

A word of caution: if you've never tasted semen, take care that you don't unintentionally cause him to cum in your mouth if you're not ready for it. You'll either like the taste, or you'll hate it. And if you hate it and feel like you're going to puke, the mood will probably be killed quickly. Monitor his breathing and actions and listen to him. You'll learn when he's about to cum and can either slow down or stop giving him oral to avoid a premature ejaculation, or you can allow him to cum on your body instead. A healthy diet can make the semen taste better, or a healthy glass of pineapple juice about an hour before will sweeten the taste usually.  

Oral sex for her 

Going down on your woman is an adventure unto itself. Maybe she trimmed herself and drew a little design in her pubes just for your viewing pleasure. Maybe she has a special piercing that you finally get to see, or finally went down on you and now you're going to repay her in kind by tasting her candy cave. This is a special time and your primary focus should be on her pleasure. With this in mind, here are several basic techniques you can do for her with your mouth and tongue. 

Licking is (again) the basic way to perform oral. Similar to how a guy receives it, you'll want to lick her area with a flat, pointed, or curled tongue. Depending on what you're doing, certain tongue shapes will work better in certain areas. A flat tongue technique will work better on the outer folds of her vagina, while a pointed or curled tongue would be better for either more focused outer stimulation (like around the clit) or penetrating and tasting her insides (it's quite tasty, don't be nervous). Each technique will send her different forms of pleasure, so take your time and see what works best for her. (Helpful tip: Draw little designs or spell words with your tongue to drive her sexually crazy.) 

Sucking lightly can be done on the clit and outer folds of her vagina, and both will drive her wild with lust. But don't do this right away. Take your time and tease her for a bit before giving her these sensations. Why? Because she'll likely grab your head and pull you deeper into her crotch when you do this, and you want to be ready when your supply of oxygen is temporarily cut off. The clit has a direct line to the pleasure center of her brain and will send her into a primal sexual frenzy. Gently suck on it and watch as she becomes over powered by lust and pleasure.  

While giving her oral, you can also stick a finger or two into her vagina to increase the sensations you're giving her. While not oral in itself, fingering can reach those hard to reach spots inside her vagina, such as the g-spot. Combine it with oral, and you got a great combo of foreplay going. While licking or sucking on her clit, you can either pump your fingers in and out of her vagina (similar to what your penis will do) or you can curl your fingers in a "come here" motion to rub the inner walls. Doing both the pumping and curling will generate sensations that will drive her crazy. Experiment and explore, she'll thank you for it later.