Aftercare: A must

 There you are, laying together in post-orgasmic bliss. You're probably short of breath, a little sweaty, and feeling that wonderful tingling feeling throughout your bodies. Maybe the sex was a little rough, and you have that delicious ache in your groins. Perhaps you had a BDSM session and you got rope marks along your arms and legs from where you pulled at the ropes. Life is, for lack of a better word, perfect.  

But what do you do now? 

You could always go at it again, if you both have the strength. But in the instances where neither of you can continue, it's always good to provide a little aftercare to each other. It helps build the bond between two partners by taking care of some basic needs. It's not always cuddling (although this is a nice way to start aftercare). Aftercare can be something as simple as getting drinks to restore electrolytes, some snacks to enjoy, a nap, even light conversation. Taking a shower once you've regained your strength to move is highly recommended. Taking one together helps build that bond as you wash each other off. The hot water helps ease sore muscles, the soap will help clean your juices off, and if you're cleaning each other, massaging the muscles will help you both relax. 

If it's your first-time having sex or trying something new, don't talk about it right away as emotions will still be running high. Give it a day or two before bringing it up. This will allow you both to process what happened, especially if you tried something you've never done before, so that you can figure out what you liked, what you didn't like, and what you might want to try later. This is an important step for new sexually active couples as it can be awkward after crossing that line. If things happened that were not what you were expecting, you don't want to bring it up directly after it's over. Allow yourself to figure out what you think can be changed, so that you'll be able to enjoy it later.  (Take a day or two and relax. You can then reflect on how things went and make mental notes of what you enjoyed and what you want to avoid later on.)

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